Learning More About The Pain Body

The pain body                      (excerpt from www.cellularmemory.org)

The cornerstone of emotional toxicity is the Pain Body, which prevents you from experiencing peace and connection at an emotional and spiritual level as well as vitality and health at a physical and cellular level. The Pain Body can be seen as its own energy field within the Cellular Memory whose prime directive is the accumulation and generation of pain in your life. Whether disease, dysfunction, imbalance or lack of peace occurs at any level, you can be sure that the Pain Body is playing a very active role in feeding its existence. Eckhart Tolle, author of The Power of Now, calls the cumulative layers of NEC the "Pain-Body" and refers to it as an entity. He says:

"There are two levels of pain: the pain that you create now, and the pain of the past that still lives on in your mind and body. This of course includes the pain that you suffer as a child, caused by the unconsciousness of the world into which you were born. The accumulated pain is a negative energy field that occupies your body and mind. If you look at it as an invisible entity in its own right, you are getting quite close to the truth - It's the emotional Pain-Body."

The cells in which past physical or emotional trauma is stored, operate in a survival pattern based on something that is no longer real or current for anyone but the person maintaining the pattern. When an unresolved issue or trauma impedes the flow of energy in the body-mind system, stagnation is created in a particular part of the body, often the organ, joint or muscle most associated with the trauma. We know further that areas of stagnant energy contain negative e-motional charge (NEC) that literally split and subdivide the human energy field in separate compartments without communication between them. When we hold off the trauma, we are allowing more layers of NEC to follow the original one making the situation even more complex. A simple example: You hurt your ankle while running because you are late to your office. You feel very upset for that. You get angry at yourself for not paying more attention when walking and you may blame yourself by saying things like, "Stupid, you never pay enough attention!" "You are going to be late and your boss will be upset with you". By now, your body is not only feeling the physical trauma in the form of real pain, but you are adding self-condemnation, anger, guilt, fear and unforgiveness. This process may go on and on.
Acupuncturist, Tapas Fleming writes in her book You Can Heal Now: "...at the moment when a problem or a trauma happens, (physical, mental or emotional) we have the feeling that life is unbearable and we say 'NO' to whatever is happening to us. Some variations to this theme include: 'this is too much for me; if this happens, I won't survive.' The implication to that inner statement is, 'I'll deal with it later, file it away, I'll face it when I can, when it is not life threatening'.

But we seem to put off forever something that we don't want to deal with now, and the imbalance of the undigested trauma stays with us. We can put time and distance between us and the event, but the experience itself is still on hold. Another response may be to deny that the problem happened. However the more we keep it locked in the 'so called Past', the more strongly we are connected with it. The more unresolved issues we hold off, the more narrow and limited our lives will become." Unprocessed traumatic experiences create suffocation and contraction of the positive e-motional charge (PEC) which leads to massive dysfunction in our bodies-mind system. The disproportion between positive and negative e-motional charge (Pain-Body) is such that the natural bodily activities are deeply affected. Just think for a moment, the amount of Life force that it has taken to "hold" that NEC stored in the cells all this time! Now imagine for a while how you would feel releasing that NEC, allowing the transformation to take place. When we use this technology, we do not erase the memory. The stuck Life force is liberated, leaving the cells' natural energy free to be used for self-healing and growth. Since very young, we learned to resist our feelings, damaging ourselves physically, mentally and emotionally. We did this because we didn't know what we were doing and because we imitated others (ancestors, parents, teachers, TV programs, publicity, books, etc.) When we disregard a feeling, we are resisting its existence and trying to exchange it for something that matches our self-image. When we resist "what is" and the existence of present feelings, we cannot digest the experience. This is how the NEC is stored in the body-mind organism creating the Pain-Body.

What supports the Pain-Body is "unconsciousness"

The Pain-Body is an inner energy field, almost a "separate entity", with its own agenda. This is an energy field of negative beliefs. And the negative decisions that we make about our life and ourselves, may affect our reactions when a certain button is pushed." Sometimes the stimuli are "nonsense" and other people don't understand our dramatic overreaction. This creates more negativity in our thoughts and perceptions, attracting more uncomfortable circumstances into our experience.

The Pain-Body is very big in our civilization; it is everywhere--books, movies, television--wherever we go, we see its expression. These are expressions of resistance, of anger, envy, oppression, resentment, fear, guilt, shame and all other forms of negativity. It is friction that was never resolved in our system, friction that was never observed, allowed and transformed, but rather stored and put on hold. When we go through a negative experience, usually we make a decision such as, "I'm not good enough," or "I won't be able to make it"; " I'm dumb", or "this is too much for me". When we believe in those decisions, they get imprinted in our energy field and they run our life from then on. Most of those decisions were made at a formative age, or were absorbed from our mother's energy field in the womb.

The main reason that we don't want to deal with the Pain-Body is because we don't know how. In addition, we don't know how because we never knew of its existence. We were not aware of it! The Pain-Body is the accumulation in us of all the negative experiences we have had, all the resistance, all the complaints. Most of it is unnecessary suffering. Unconsciously we get used to a way of perceiving life that causes us suffering. It is because of ignorance and imitation. We don't know what we are doing to ourselves.

The Pain-Body can be released when we transform the stagnant NEC in our system. We digest NEC when we fully acknowledge and allow our feelings, without reactivity, and without judging ourselves, for the way we feel. While practicing this work, you will be consciously visiting your energy field, perhaps for the first time in your life. You will be bringing awareness to your mental and emotional reality. It is not the expression of the emotions that is relevant, it is owning them, being present to them. Not because they are "your" emotions, but because they are happening in you "now". And when you accept fully what is happening in the now, it passes through you; it doesn't get stuck.

The Psychology of Forgiveness

Stop Running From Your Solutions!!!



Proverbs 3:13-18  (NIV)

¹³ Blessed are those who find wisdom,  those who gain understanding, ¹⁴ for she is more profitable than silver
and yields better returns than gold. ¹⁵ She is more precious than rubies; nothing you desire can compare with her.
¹⁶ Long life is in her right hand; in her left hand are riches and honor. ¹⁷ Her ways are pleasant ways, and all her paths are peace. ¹⁸ She is a tree of life to those who take hold of her; those who hold her fast will be blessed.





 

Everyone from time to time has told someone else, or had the thought in their mind at least to "Stop Running From Your Problems!"  Well, the same can be said about the solutions to those problems.  The one major difference is that your problems will follow you wherever you run-their solutions will not.

It's safe to say that if you're human, then you have something in your life that makes you feel like getting away from it.  Whether it's a broken down relationship, childhood memories related to trauma of some sort or even money issues-problems are inherently the same.  Oftentimes, we will be sprinting through life trying to outrun these dilemmas and we don't even realize it until much later, when the situation becomes like the movie "Groundhog Day" and you find yourself reliving the same scenarios time after time.

These patterns of repetition in certain areas of our lives are meant to stand out and grab our attention.  They are designed to draw our focus inward so that we can identify what our subconscious mind is communicating to us through the events and people in our lives.  Unfortunately, we are usually spurred by strong emotions to move in just the opposite direction.  Outward.  We begin to analyze the individuals that we have had issues with and we begin to pin the blame and shame on them for whatever has gone wrong.  Step two in this process causes us to pick up speed as our thoughts race and we settle into the rhythm of excuses such as "I don't know why the wrong people are always attracted to me!" or "Everytime I think my finances are turning around something happens and I'm broke again!" or maybe even, "I just have the worst luck in this area of my life!"

All of these excuses are like a pair of awesome running shoes.  They help you run faster, harder and feel less impact as you're doing it.  They provide a comfortable cocoon of denial in your mind which lure you into accepting that whatever struggle you are sprinting away from is never going to end so you have to just keep running.  You may run through five failing relationships with similar issues.  You may sprint through two bancruptcies and blame it all on bad luck.  You may huff and puff your way through periods of regaining weight after finally shedding fifty pounds only to spiral back into the beginning position and do it all over again.

My point is this, until you figure out what in the world is out of place within the blueprint of your mind/body unit--you are never going to see change occur in your life.  Because as you're running from the true issues by using blame to cover it up--you are in the very same instant burying the exact thing that has the power to set you free from the cycle.

I know that you've probably already read my book, so you know all of the struggles that I faced in relationships all of my life.  I'm here today to reinforce to you the bare fact that it wasn't until I began to search INWARD that my OUTWARD struggles began to cease.  I know that God has given me to this work to teach His people how to truly attain freedom in their lives. 

It is my honor and a blessing to me to do just that.  I am here and ready to help you uncover those little energetic memory seeds that have taken root in your subconcious mind (as well as the cells in your physical body: i.e., cellular memory) and to help you eliminate them.  They are just weeds and once you pluck them out, good things will begin to grow in your life.  The hard part is figuring out how to identify the weed--and I can help you do just that.

I am now offering my Kinetic Healing Services online via my virtual office on LivePerson.  Aside from many professional credentials to my name, I am also the founder and a practitioner of Kinetic Forgiveness Through Inner Alchemy which is a structured self-healing program that teaches the principles and techniques that will turn your life around.  Part of my service is to create a personal meditation portfolio that will guide you through the steps to clearing out all of that old stagnant energy from every element of your body and mind.

God has put it on my heart to reach out to those of you who have been immersing yourselves in the Practice of The Secret.  If you have tried the techniques and yet still are not seeing positive results flowing into your life, there is a reason. 

The Secret works through movement of energy over the planes.  This energy moves from your subconcious mind out into the Infinite Field of Pure Potentiality where it orchestrates events that then move back across the plane into physical reality. 

This process cannot work for you if you have something in your subconcious mind that is blocking the movement of this energy.  The stagnation or block is often caused by events in your life that left a little seed of negative energy behind which began to grow over time and started to operate in your life on its own, sending messages over the planes which brought those negative realities into your physical world.  You won't be able to realize your full creative potential until this energy is removed.  

This process isn't a fifteen minute fix.  It takes time, effort, energy and faith to bring about the changes you are yearning for in your life.  If you're ready to make an investment in your own happiness and well-being, please contact me for more information.  I am here to help those of you who feel the initiative burning inside and to whom my words ring true in your heart and mind.  I am not looking to convince anyone of anything-I am simply here in the potential that God has given me as a teacher and a healer and I am available and ready to help you today.  If you feel drawn to this teaching, that is God's way of letting you know that it's time to move forward.  He wants to lift your burden and give you peace and fulfillment.  A Happy and Successful Life brings happiness, honor and glory to God in every capacity.  It is the entirety of the reason we were created in the beginning.

Healing Your Inner Child

                                       NURTURING THE WOUNDED CHILD WITHIN YOU

Every one of us has a wounded child that we carry deep within ourselves.  Most of us never acknowledge that this child exists, much less addressing any unmet needs for healing that are all its own.  Instead, we blame our repetitive poor choices and inner sadness on other, more outward things in our lives such as money issues, relationship troubles, physical ailments or general discontent.  This is what I like to call External Labeling.  When we practice external labeling, we are essentially giving away all of our power to claim freedom from our inner sense of turbulence.  By allowing ourselves to recognize the wounded child within us, instead of practicing external labeling-we take back that power so that we can release those things which are weighing us down and making our lives feel dull and heavy.

What is the wounded child?  I define the wounded child as a part of us that has been our emotional receptor through which we have emotionally experienced the world around us and the ongoing flow of events in our lives from the time we were children ourselves.  Emotions, you may agree-are ageless.  Emotions don’t grow up as we grow up-they don’t intellectualize and they don’t mature into different aspects of themselves.  Anger is still anger.  Resentment is still resentment.  Happiness is happiness.  And the list goes on.  So you see, if we acknowledge that the part of ourselves that has always been the amplifier of our internal feelings is also an ageless, timeless component of our human self, then we will be better able to understand and to work with this part of ourselves in a dramatically healing way.

An example of the wounded child when you were perhaps seven years old would be that you wanted to play a game with some other children, but they ostracized you and shut you out instead of inviting you into their fun.  Your feelings were hurt, right?  You felt that sensation of sadness, rejection and pain wash over you.  Your wounded child was the part of you that felt those emotions as you witnessed the event.  Let’s say now maybe twenty or thirty years later you are sitting in your cubicle at work and you realize that a group of your coworkers are planning a picnic or a night on the town—and nobody has invited you.  There is a small part of yourself that you will feel as it relives that old pain from your childhood.  Most of us don’t identify this as having roots to our past-we just experience it as a reaction process to a stimulant in our environment.  But that’s not entirely true because our reactions to today’s events and the way we interpret them is largely based on the experiences of our past.  This is the wounded child reminding you of ancient remnants of pain that find new life in the present by reenacting past events using old pathways of emotional energy which bring your past into your present without you knowing it.

I believe that we have many opportunities in daily life to work with and heal our wounded child if we slow down our reaction pattern and learn to address the deeper wound that hasn’t healed.  The next time you find yourself being offended or having your feelings hurt by something other than an outright direct attack against you—think of this wounded child.  Ask him/her to remind you of where that energy originated.  You will be surprised at what comes up in your mind.  Once you have received the information from that part of yourself-and you are remembering that event it is important to consciously release this negative experience.  Forgive those involved and really let go of that experience and all of the things that have been unconsciously tied to it over the years.  You may find yourself reflecting on a moment from your early childhood and then being carried away into something totally different in another period in your life.  This is good, because it allows you the opportunity to close down that old road of negative emotions that continually brings the past into the present and it gives you freedom from old hang-ups and patterns that you have unconsciously created in your life. 

Once you have forgiven and released these events (no matter what they are) the wounded child will release them, as well because there will be no need to “protect” you from similar circumstances by reminding you of past pain.  This is, I believe where the ultimate healing of one’s life becomes possible.

God did not create us to be two dimensional beings that run on a remote control located in the distant past.  He created us to be vibrant and living facets of His own reflection and He expects us to be the creators of our lives using every ounce of creativity that He designed within us.  These, I believe are the actions that bring Him the most glory.  When we move and live and breathe as tiny extensions of the one living God.

A Letter To My Dad

To My Dad At Christmas

I wonder, did the bullet sting as it tore through the torment in your mind?  Did it indeed end your pain-or is that the moment when your suffering truly began?  I wonder if you thought of me, of her…of any of us as your spirit fled from your lifeless body and you watched as the black fabric slowly zipped closed over your face.

Did your heart give pause?  Was there even a moment of remorse, perhaps as you discovered that once again you had chosen something else before me?  Did your spirit cringe as you finally understood that in that moment  just as in every one before you had never considered how I would feel—or that I would be the one to carry the weight of your choice for the rest of my life?

When I was a little girl, I watched you choose another woman and her children over your own.  I was the one who went unnoticed, standing at the screen door staring out…keeping watch for the first glimpse of your truck to come into view.  I was the little girl who stood alone on dad’s day at school while all of the other little girls daddys were there, laughing…playing…loving their daughters.  But I had Christmas, it was the one thing that drew you close to me.  It brought you just to the threshold of my life-right on the edge for an hour or two each year and I learned to cling to that moment with all that I had.  But then, I was just a little girl-and who would have ever thought that I could have had feelings and thoughts that were all of my own?  Certainly not you.  You never did.

As an adult I watched your choice to steer your life clear of mine as you buried yourself in your little trailer and withdrew the rest of your love from me.  I tried to be what you needed.  I bet you never realized it, but I tried to find some part of you that hadn’t been sealed away from me-a way into your life.  You had tolerated me for a while after your first granddaughter was born.  I even believed that she may have been the key to keeping you close to me.  But I was wrong, because you always had choices and I never made cut and in those final years, neither did my daughter.  So I took her away to protect her from feeling unworthy of your love as I had felt, still felt.  Still feel.  But you never noticed.  You believed that a well placed dollar was worth enough to make up for all of the time you never spent with me.  But it wasn’t.  And I learned from you that I wasn’t good enough to be important or to love.

Your final choice was death and once again, my love for you was never a consideration.  You chose to grasp the cold metal pistol over holding my hand and letting me love you.  You chose the stinging bullet over a kiss on the cheek from me.  You chose the cold ground over Christmas morning at grandma’s with your children and granddaughters…. with me.  But I live with that, you don’t.  Every year, I string the bright colored lights on the tree, I hang the ornaments from the branches and  I see your face in every package I wrap.  And when it’s done, I stand at the screen door and look out into the darkness and realize again that you’re never coming back.  That any chance I had at ever being good enough to be your choice is gone and that the love that I cherished most in my life lies still and broken in the cold and silent grave.  It’s still every bit as unrecognized and unreturned as it has been all of my life.

Christmas is here once again and I can feel the warmth of those closest to me as they try to fill that emptiness that you left behind.  But they can’t.  They can only watch as I continue in sadness, pointing out every flaw that I see within myself and weighing them against your decision to leave me over and over again.  They say that I am worthy of love and that I am beautiful but that’s so hard to believe when the one man who was supposed to love me most in this world proved time and again that I was not worthy of his love.  It’s hard for me to let people inside of my brokenness because I do not want them to see the shattered pieces  of my heart.  I don’t want them to get too close because I don’t want to feel the pain when abandonment comes and the cycle begins again.  The pattern that you set in my childhood has played out on the canvas of my life in every close relationship I have ever had with a man.  I realize this now and it’s time for that part of myself to die if I am ever going to learn to live and to be loved in this lifetime.

So, it’s over dad.  This is the last Christmas that I will spend second guessing what and who I am.  I will always love you-just as much in death as I loved you when you were alive.  But, from this moment on I know it has to be about me and not you.  I have allowed my heart to become restless as  the fear would rip through me at the moment someone began to love me.  I would reject it, push it away to protect myself.  But I was protecting myself from pain I had already experienced and I’m ready to stop now.

You were restless in life and you are most likely still restless, wherever your spirit has gone.  But just in case you’re hanging around from time to time, I want you to know that I forgive you.  I miss you and I love you-but I won’t let the consequences of your actions fall on me anymore.  You should be the one who is sorry, not me.  You spent your entire life running away from love and I have been just like you.  And from now on, I’m not going to be.  I know how to give love-now I just have to learn how to accept it.  I pray that God will help you find peace.  I will love you always.

Facing Regrets--Finding Peace With The Past

I awakened this morning with a memory from a long time ago floating around in my head. It was Winter of 2006. My cousin, Chad and his fiancee were getting married and had asked me to do a reading at their wedding. I had only just the month before lost the man that I was totally in love with, when I found out that he had been dating someone else our entire relationship and was now living with her. Crushed as I was inside-I still wanted to be part of Chad's beautiful wedding and to be there for him and his soon to be wife. My sister and I hitched a ride down to Georgia with our aunt and uncle where we stayed beachfront on Jekyll Island.

I remember feeling a storm of emotions as I stood on the coast and watched the waves crashing against the shore. I felt as small as a grain of sand and as dumb as a pebble that just floated along whichever direction the current swept it--never thinking for myself--always ignorant that someone else's motives may have been deceptive. For me, those waves symbolized words...promises to protect my heart...the assurance of love...and I had been swept to and fro happily in those currents until the day came when I was tossed up onto the sand and abandoned. I was cast away onto the scorching sands of midday and left there-alone in my brokenness as the coldness of night approached. And that was my fate as I stood there, broken hearted staring out onto the moonlit ocean.

The wedding rehearsal came and I took my first few steps into the cathedral. I remember my heart pounding in my chest as some part of me awaited the striking of a brilliant blue lightning bolt that would tear through the top of the church and surely strike me dead. It had been so long since I had been inside a church and I was sure that my sins were so great that God would take no hesitation to snuff me out as soon as He saw me drag myself across the threshold of His house. The priest came down and shook my hand and introduced himself to me beneath the white carpeted stairway. My hand trembled as he took it in his own and I wondered if he could feel my fears as they coursed outwardly from my soul and flooded violently into my body. If he did, it wasn't apparent from his disposition and soon that moment passed and I settled in to watch the procession from a bench in the front of the church.

Soon, it was my time to ascend the staircase and receive my instructions for the reading that I was going to be giving. As I read over the words that I was to read aloud the next day--it took all of the strength in my body to stand and every ounce of resolve within me to hold back the flood of hot tears that threatened to escape at any moment. I had to read what God says about Love. Love is patient, love is kind....the words all blurred into a painful epiphony as I realized that all of the things that God says that love is....I had never known for myself. As I looked across the room at Chad and Ashley, I realized that the energy of the words I was contemplating in my mind were evident in the way that they looked at each other. I wondered if I would ever know that kind of love for myself.

In those moments that passed I regretted having allowed words and empty promises to sweep me away into a lie so many times in my life. I regretted having given myself over to the untruths and deceptions of those who used those lies in order to lure me into their lives. I regretted that I hadn't allowed God's definition of love to transcend into my definition of the same.

The next day as I slid into my four inch heels and started out to the car, I realized that I would have to at some point begin to resolve within myself all of the regrets and somehow find peace with my past if I ever wanted to be free from the sadness that now accompanied me everywhere. As I climbed the stairs up onto the stage I promised myself to leave behind all of my self-hatred and the regrets. I began to read the words from the bible that had tore into me like a hot knife the night before and for a split second I wondered if the storm of emotion would return, but it didn't. As I looked out upon the hundred or more guests in the cathedral I confessed God's definition of Love and from an unburdened heart I blessed Chad & Ashley's union that day as I received a blessing of my own.

Many things have come to pass in my life since that day that have caused my heart to break, but never once have I mistaken what love is. I have loved people who have given me pain for gold. I have loved those who have stolen parts of myself that I have held sacred and I have given kindness out of a heart that has been abandoned, cursed, shattered and eventually iced over. For a time, I couldn't receive love-but never has there been a time that I couldn't give love and for that I am thankful. Because in my life, I have learned how to live out God's definition of Love regardless of how those I have loved have defined it. And that has made all the difference.

Moving Forward & Letting Go

“I will not lie down with a breaking heart lost in the throes of human regret. I will not surrender to the fear of being alone. I refuse to waste the present chasing after a shadowy mirage of happiness that may have existed someplace in my past. All I have-all any of us has is today. Life does not move in reverse. Nothing worth keeping could possibly have been left behind if it was for my good anyway, so I choose to allow every good opportunity free access to my life. I choose to accept and embrace every blessing that God rains down upon me with an uplifted heart, recognizing that His dreams for me are much bigger and better than any I could imagine for myself. “


So many times in life we are reminded of past failures and shortcomings in life that have come with a high cost. It is easy to fall into the self-resentment rut, but that is exactly what the enemy wants us to do. That’s why he reminds us so fervently about the things that have hurt us the most. He wants us to harbor hatred toward ourselves because if we are caught up in self-loathing, God’s light cannot shine through us. Today is the day to lay down those heavy burdens that tether you to the past. Understand that you have taken with you the living part of the experience, which is knowledge-but the pain was never meant to be held onto. Decide that today is the day that you are going to close that door and seal it, walking away a free person. Let go of the fear and pain and live in the now-where life is in constant evolution and opportunities exist to propel you into your highest potential.

Living Through Loss and Regret

Living Through Loss and Regret

“When my dad committed suicide in 2004 I felt as though the pain would rip me apart. Every day was an uphill struggle. I felt such guilt and such pain for what he must have been going through that night. It happened shortly after Father's Day and that was the ONE year that I didn't visit him. I kept feeling that if I would have shown up then he would have known he was loved and it would have stopped him. The thing that got me through it was coming to the understanding that no matter how much I loved him or if I would have been there on that Father's Day expressing that love to him--he was in a place in himself that would not allow him to recognize that love. I began to trust that God knew my dad's heart and his final hours and even though it is such a tragedy, I have faith that God was with him and understood his pain in ways that we as his children could never have comprehended. I believe that my dad is in Heaven-and I believe that because I know that God is merciful and that he loves my dad more than anybody here on earth ever could have.” -Betty Humphrey

Everyone has experienced a loss of someone they love whether it is by the death of a relationship or the death of an individual. We process loss by reflecting it inward and convicting ourselves of somehow bringing about that loss. Grief is a natural process and there are varying stages but at the end of that period of processing, we have to be willing to let the experience go. This doesn’t mean that we don’t still miss our loved one-it just means that we let go of the idea that we could have done anything differently at that time.

I am a firm believer in this and I have said so many times in my work-people do not consciously make bad decisions. Everyone always does the very best they can in every situation with the information that they have available to them at that time. It doesn’t do any good to live a backwards life where you are always focused on things you could have done differently. If you could have done something differently at that time then you would have-end of story.

All of our actions are not perfect, of course because we are imperfect beings. Our only claim to perfection is the light of our creator when it shines out from our hearts and illuminates the faces of the people in our lives. Living in the past doesn’t allow you to reflect God’s perfect love in your life and no matter how much time you spend looking backwards, nothing about the past can ever be changed. This is a trick of the enemy that is designed to keep you in guilt and cloak you in the darkness of regret.

When you feel convicted for something you have done or said that you know wasn’t right, confess it to God and ask Him to free you from it. He will show you the way out of that dark place. Leave your guilt with Him. He is the Light of transformation that will lead you into the places where His light can shine upon the faces of the children He so dearly loves-and He will shine that light through YOU.

There IS healing for your life...

All of us have experienced betrayal, hurt and loss in our lives.  It is part of existing on a planet with other individuals who are in constant battles with their egos just like we are.  Some losses and disappointments warrant a fast recovery and leave minimal damage, others cut us to the core and break our hearts, spirits and even our lives-if we cannot find forgiveness.

I suppose the greatest opposition to forgiveness is indeed the ego.  The ego wants to be lifted up and bowed down to reverentially.  If we are allowing our ego to dominate our lives, then we will have a much more difficult time forgiving others.  In order to thwart the ego, a stronger power must be the active and leading force in our lives.  I believe that when our spirit is the guiding and directional force from which we live, forgiveness is a more natural process. 

The spirit doesn’t hold onto grudges and old pain-it is built to understand and respect that we are all equal to one another and that we all face the same challenges and shortcomings in life.  The ego however, is built to dominate and to force surrender by all other opposition because its intention is to feed the flesh.  Therefore, the ego filters through the events in our lives and pays little attention to the good things others do for us-but holds on relentlessly to the injustices that take place in our lives.  The ego grows and builds upon those things, making them large enough to disrupt our emotions and cloud our decisions.  This sabotages every good thing that God has planned for us.

Honestly, if you have stumbled upon this and you are living through the ego-you are going to want strongly to close your browser.  The ego doesn’t want competition-it doesn’t even want you to know that it is in control.  It seeks to fool you by stirring up emotions that are negatively charged and then, like a child during a tantrum-seeks to get its way by reminding you of how much has been taken from you and how terribly wrong others have been to ever DARE to cause you pain.  The ego seeks to cause you to believe that revenge is right and justified.  It seeks to forward its agenda by fooling you into submission through emotions such as anger and jealousy. 

If you will call out the ego and define it for what it is and what it is doing in your life right now-it will diminish, because it cannot stand in the light of truth.  Let’s do a little exercise.  Think about a person whom you are not fond of because of something they did or said to you or about you that hurt your feelings.  Think of the worst betrayal you have ever experienced in your life.  Take a moment and reflect on that person and the feelings.  Now imagine that person happy, healthy and having everything that he or she ever dreamed of-some of which was purchased at your expense.  What do you feel?  Are you feeling irritated? Angry? Jealous?  Does some part of you feel the need to knock them off of the pedestal you are imagining them perched upon? 

That is ego.  Call it what it is-it is your ego seeking vindication for a wrong that you have suffered so that it can feed your flesh and rule your emotions.  It wants to stay in control.  Now, tell your ego (which is demanding by now that you shut your browser) to be quiet and I want you to turn to your spirit.  There is a soft energy just below your heart in the top of your belly that you can tangibly FEEL as a warmth when you seek to access your spirit and it has great healing potential for your life.   In order to access this healing part of yourself you have to put aside every negative emotion and allow your spirit to speak to you.

You see, your spirit is the part of you that God will work through to heal your life when you refuse to let the ego control you any longer.  You will begin to feel a softening toward that person that you were so angry with a few moments ago.  You will begin to remember things about that person’s life that caused THEM pain and you will begin to understand that even though it isn’t okay that you got hurt, it is important that you let go of that hurt. 

Maybe your anger and resentment are directed toward YOURSELF and your own past actions.  If that is the case, then you will be comforted in knowing that all of those old things have been washed away and that you are a new creation.  None of the imagined damage and pain are left from those old destructive patterns, that is unless you are holding onto them.  Softness in the spirit seeks to forgive your past indiscretions and heal those old wounds by helping you to embrace forgiveness of yourself and a gentle understanding that who and where you were then is an entirely different person and place than who and where you are now.

Surrendering our pain to God is a transformational action that reaps healing and growth in our lives and helps us to forgive EFFECTIVELY.  Putting all of these things that have broken us down in the palm of the hand of the almighty gives us freedom from reliving the pain through old emotional wounds as time goes on.  If we choose to keep even a fragment of the pain we have been through, we are keeping that seed of discouragement, abandonment and failure in the fertile soil of our lives and it will grow.  We don’t always see the current circumstances in our lives as having anything to do with any grudges or unforgiveness we are harboring, but the truth is that the roots of resentment grow deep and they choke out every good seed that could spring forth an abundance of good things in our lives.

Ultimately it is our choice whether or not we hold onto pain.  God is asking us to give that to Him.  He wants to carry our burdens and help us to  find fulfillment and joy in our lives.  God never created one individual that he did not have a dream and a purpose for.  What was he purposing when he formed you in your mother’s womb?  I can tell you this, whatever He imagined for you in that moment of your creation is greater and more beautiful than anything you could ever dream for yourself.  He can help you realize that purpose in your life, but only if you are willing to trust Him and surrender to Him your painful past.  He is the judge and all things will be made right in HIS timing. 

We spend too much of OUR time making ourselves the focal point of every disruption in life.  We never stop to think that most of the time when we are hurt by someone’s actions, it isn’t deliberate.  We all make the best decisions we can with the information we have available in every set of circumstances.  It is the emotional storms that cause low visibility that lead us to hurt ourselves and others by our choices.  So many times in life we are simply caught in the crossfire of someone else’s battle with their own ego-or are engaged in a battle with our own.  Seeing events in the light of this truth is healing in and of itself.

Aren’t you tired of feeling angry, guilty, sad and lost?  There is hope and help and love that far outweighs the circumstances in your life and it is available now.  God loves you dearly.  You are the apple of his eye and he is waiting and anticipating the day when you will turn away from your pain and throw yourself into his arms so he can help you.  Is today that day?

Have you read Kinetic Forgiveness?  If not, you can get your copy here.  A Kindle version is also available.

What I Learned from A Bee....

My story of the day…..

THE BEE

I got up this morning and piddled around the house doing Sunday morning things for a little while before realizing that I would need to go to the store.  I drove into town and picked up all of the things on my list and headed back home.  It was a beautiful day and the sun was shining brilliantly with a warm breeze blowing so I rolled my window down.  About two thirds of the way home I felt a distinct thud against my cheekbone as a yellow jacket was blown into the truck.  I looked in the side view mirror of the truck and leaned out and could see him hanging onto my hair with all of his little legs.  Hello adrenaline.  I couldn’t very well stop the truck and beat my head on the steering wheel until the bee was  either freed or killed, so I continued driving-keeping a watch on him still hanging in my hair.  I tried fluffing my hair into the wind by hanging my head partially out of the window as I speeded up-but that only twisted my hair and the bee became lost in the tangles.  Crap! Now what?  All of the way home I imagined that this bee was slowly inching his way upwards along that lock of hair and that he was going to sting me.  Nonetheless, I did not panic, I just worried and drove quickly with my head hanging out the window.  I’m sure that was quite a sight for all of the cars I was meeting on that road.  Finally, the road narrowed into the long country stretch that would lead me home.  I had to slow down because it is mountainous and winding.  But I didn’t like that.  I kept peering at my hair in the reflection of my side view mirror trying to catch a glimpse of that stupid bee that I was sure was very angry by now, and probably just coming to after his impact with the side of my face earlier.  I couldn’t see him, but I could see the tangle where I imagined that he was caught up.  After a few tense minutes I made it home and careened down my driveway.  I slammed on the brakes and threw the truck in first gear and literally leapt out the door.  I did a fervent speed walk from the driveway into the house with my head dangling to the left to try to keep the bee that I was convinced was planning to sting me from getting further toward my face.  I yelled for help and help came quickly to assist in de-beeing my long hair.  However; there was no bee found.  I know he WAS in there when I first looked out the window into the side view mirror, but apparently one of the gusts of wind had sucked him out the window without me knowing.  I brushed my hair like a madwoman, thinking that I was going to dislodge this little kamikaze with malicious intent from my tangled locks, but after brushing  revealed no bee-I just had to kind of laugh at myself a little bit.

And then, God spoke to me and he said you know how you got all upset over that bee and you were sure it would sting you even when you couldn’t see it, you just KNEW it was going to somehow get you?  Well, the bee and the danger was gone-taken care of but you were still reacting to that fear and the belief that you were in danger.  I began to see that it’s like that with other dangers in our lives, too.  We see a perceived danger and we are immediately convinced that it’s got us by the leg-when, in fact it could have already been taken care of.  I guess God was trying to teach me to relax a little and stop reacting so much to my perception of danger and trust him to get the bee out of my hair, so to speak.  I don’t know if this helps anybody else or not, but the next time a large yellow jacket is sucked into your vehicle and becomes lodged in your hair, I hope you will think about this lesson in fear.  I reacted all the way home to this bee in my hair, when obviously he had been sucked back out the window a long time before I got to the driveway.  This made me realize that we also continue reacting in fear based ways to things that have already been resolved in our lives-keeping that adrenaline and all of those stress hormones pumping through our bloodstream.  This was a lesson to me to trust God with those dangers that I fear but can’t see so that I can have the peace that He intended for me.  I hope you will enjoy the peace that He has intended for you, as well.  May God Bless You & Keep You In All Ways.

KINETIC FORGIVENESS**AVAILABLE NOW ON AMAZON**

From Kinetic Forgiveness by Betty J. Humphrey

We are living in the age of discovery, not only of our ancient ancestry, but of inborn wisdom, long forgotten.Today, in this moment knowledge is flowing into our creative consciousness, allowing us to see past what is tangible.We are born to create and manifest.The secret energies that our creator buried within the constructs of our minds is now coming into the light.It is now time to awaken to the wisdom that is before us.
This kinetic force of wisdom is seeking to teach us how to use those most intimate parts of ourselves which are created in the image of God in order to create within ourselves what is good, what is right, what is eternal.We are called into creation so that we may create in our own hearts and lives what is Luminescent and Radiant Love.We are being called out of an age of dormant resources into the Dawning of New Enlightenment.God is opening our eyes to what has been long hidden from us.It is now our responsibility to reach out and take hold of that knowledge and to follow it.Happiness is alive. Forgiveness is alive.Peace is alive.All of these energies are sentient and kinetic.

What is Kinetic Forgiveness™
Kinetic Forgiveness™ is a cultivated state of awareness that is useful in the releasement of negative patterns of behavior and thought. By tracing current patterns backwards to the point of origin and examining the underlying stagnation of energy, the block can be successfully removed. This technique will allow one to heal continually in an ongoing basis. It will assist in removal of negative mindsets that have evolved into destructive patterns which often derail relationships, damage self-esteem and cost valuable opportunities.
The Health of the Mind and Spirit are played out on the canvas of everyday life. Negative mindsets can undermine and destroy relationships, opportunities and the health of the body. Without the Body, the Spirit has no home. Use this powerful teaching to move forward in YOUR LIFE today! Kinetic Forgiveness™
This Book will help you learn how to Cultivate Peace in your life. And together, peace and forgiveness create health.
What is Peace anyway? I mean, we all (collectively as human beings) generally agree that out of all of the things we can seek to possess in this world, peace stands out at the forefront of all desires. But can we define it? You see, I believe that if we go a little deeper we will find that the definition of Peace is illusive when we try to fit it into the conceptual mold that we have been taught to view it in.
Peace isn't the absence of conflict. Just like the absence of hatred doesn't indicate love--neither does the absence of conflict indicate peace. Peace is sentient and energetic. It has its own intrinsic gifts when we learn to allow it to expand and unfold within us.
Until we learn to embrace what peace really is, we will never be fully able to embrace the energies it carries with it-and the total transformation that it creates within our lives. Forgiveness and Peace are two intelligent energies that work together in a synergistic way to connect us to the wellspring of positive manifestation.

I believe that the first step to embracing the true embodiment of peace within our lives is to refrain from playing the labels game. We stop labeling good, bad, ugly-etc. We begin to allow information to FLOW instead of damming it up by creating strong negative emotional connections to it. The negative emotional connections that are established through judgment only serve to act as a funnel that directs that negative information AND it's negative emotional counterparts directly into our lives & our bodies where it creates discord, unhappiness and disease.

Letting Go In The Storm

The storms of life surely come and some of them tear through our lives like tornadoes, uprooting everything in their path.  God does not allow these things to come upon us in order to beat us down or invoke submission.  He allows us to experience the storms because they build our faith and our reliance upon Him. 

Earlier this week I woke up to a morning filled with terrifying heart palpitations and a racing heartbeat which sent me off to the ER.  They told me that I was suffering with something called atrial fibrillation.  After many blood tests, a chest x-ray and a catscan of my lungs I was given one final dose of the medication which was intended to fix my situation.  It did not work.  The doctor came into the room and smiled at me and said "you know what this means, right?"  "I said yes, you have to shock me."  A flood of nurses and medical students came rushing into the room to watch the procedure.  I was so afraid.  The nurse had told me that it was going to be painful and would feel like I'd been kicked in the chest by a mule.  They gave me a narcotic pain reliever in my IV and prepared me for the shock.  Everything moved in slow motion as I closed my eyes and heard the doctor say "clear".  Immediately I heard a gunshot go off in my head and my body was jerked upward.  My jaw slammed shut with dynamic force, so hard I was sure that it had broken my teeth.  In another second, it was over and my body was released from the electric shock and I relaxed back onto the bed.  When I looked up, I saw everyone looking at my monitor.  Praise God, the treatment had worked! My irregular heartbeat had become regular and had slowed to a normal pace.  I immediately felt better.  They ran another EKG scan and the doctor came in and said that it was completely normal and he was going to release me to go home.  By this time, my sister and brother were there along with my daughter and her dad, who had taken me to the ER and had been with me the entire time. 

When I think about sitting quietly through the storm I realize that I was doing just that on that day.  I was in the midst of a situation that was terrifying, painful and uncertain.  I prayed as I endured each moment and each level of fear that God would give me the strength to withstand it and that He would heal me.  And He did!  Even though I was afraid I did not feel alone, which is what I have come to understand has been the same through every traumatic event I have experienced in my life.  I have learned that He is always there no matter how terrible the storm feels.  I have also learned that storms pass.  What seems like forever in the moment really isn't forever at all.  I am very grateful that He was there to comfort me in those moments of fear and panic.  I know that He has been there through all of the storms that I have weathered in my life during seasons of loss and upheaval, as well as joy and growth.

I know that it's difficult to become still in the storm, but God's promises tell us that if we can do that and use our faith in Him and allow that faith to grow and to reach out toward Him, no matter what our storm is tossing around above our heads or how much debris is flying....He will bring us through to the end of the storm and a sunny day again.  Thank you for reading & may God bless you in all ways.

So Many New Things Going On!

Hello Everyone!

I just wanted to say to you all that I pray your day is full of joy and that you will take the time to recognize just how truly blessed your life is.  Think of all of the people that you dearly love, furry people included.  Take a moment and just thank God that you have them in your life today.  Practicing gratitude lifts your vibrational level and changes your body chemistry. 

For anybody who is interested, here are some links I hope you will find enjoyable.  The first is for my Art Dolls.  Stop in and check out the pictures and let me know what you think!  The second is just my random thoughts page....and it will most likely be very random, lol.  This will be where I will post updates about my writing projects and anything else that pops into my head.


http://mylilsmooskinz.blogspot.com/p/sculpts-to-choose-from.html
http://bettyhumphrey/blogspot.com

Thanks for looking!

LET'S STOP JUDGING ALREADY-GOD HAS A HANDLE ON IT!

GETTING OVER OURSELVES

There is absolutely no way in the world that you can convince one individual that their way of looking at a situation is not THE only viewpoint there is-or at least the only CORRECT viewpoint, anyway.  I have come to realize that as a Christian woman, I have to get over myself quite a bit in an ongoing basis if I am to be useful in God’s Kingdom at all.  Little things trip us up.  We read the bible and we KNOW what it says IS truth-but sometimes we just plainly forget the rest of the instruction which is DO NOT JUDGE.  It’s difficult not to judge!  Man is it ever!  We, as human beings have something to say about everything we witness.  We tote around canisters with huge labels on them and one by one we dissect and pick up pieces of the world and place them into these containers and we think we’re right.  But we’re not.  We’re not even close.  If we can somehow manage to keep our heads out where the sun can beam down upon them long enough, then God will show us HIS viewpoint on situations.  This is where we will actually become useful as a tool to bring others to Christ.

So long as we are running about on the planet judging and condemning others in the name of God-we are doing a disservice to His kingdom which I believe we will all have to answer for one day.  Jesus didn’t come so we could have a soapbox to stand on.  He came so that we can ALL have life and have it everlasting.  That includes rapists, adulterers, prostitutes, killers, liars and any other group you can possibly think of in which to stuff an individual.  Just because we sit in church doesn’t mean we are one inch closer to the Grace of God than someone else who perhaps isn’t in church at all.  It’s time to wake up and get over ourselves already.  Instead of spending all of our time being offended and opinionated about every bit of information that flows through our consciousness-let’s try this.  Let’s just be quiet, show love and let God do His job.  He doesn’t need us to tell others when they are wrong.  He needs us to break the bondage of those who are lost by showing them His Love for them!  I believe that Christians behaviors in the world today are achieving more in the way of filling the vacancies in hell with lost souls than all of the devil’s henchmen put together because we refuse to accept and love others in spite of their actions.  What if God was like that?  What if He didn’t accept you?  Certainly you are no more perfect than I or anyone else roaming around the planet.  What if He behaved toward US the way WE behave toward others?!  Talk about a scary thought, huh? 

Think about it.  Who is signing your payroll-spiritually I mean, if you are running around condemning actions that you don’t agree on.  “But it’s based on biblical truths.”  Yes it is.  Some things are wrong.  A lot of things are wrong-but who are we to judge?  Who are we to judge a homosexual for their actions?  Do you not have an addict, an unwed mother or an adulterer in your family that you love?  Come on, resist the urge to be offended and grasp this.  No matter who we are or how often we are in church or how many congregations we speak to in a year’s time-we are no better or closer to God’s Love than one that is lost in the depths of their own destruction.  In fact, we are equal to every other human being that has ever been born to walk upon the earth.  The difference is that we know God’s Love and it is now our responsibility to share that with every other person we possibly can.  Are you doing your part?  Am I doing mine?  How is that for a realization?

Every time I am tempted to feel negatively toward a person because of their actions, I am reminded that it is going to be terribly difficult to explain that behavior to the Living God when there is NO explanation.  God does not make mistakes.  You are not a mistake, I am not a mistake-and neither is anybody else.  In my small town of Elkton, Virginia I am ashamed to say are a dumptruck load of Christian Judges who wave bibles and sling condemnation in the name of God toward people who are caught in a life of homosexuality.  And yet I would be very surprised if I witnessed them going home and slinging the same condemnation upon themselves when they practice sin by watching unsuitable television programs or filling their bellies to overflowing at the local IHOP.  Nor would I expect to find any of them on their soapbox when it comes to their sons and daughters who manufacture and sell methamphetamines or give birth to fatherless children that they then neglect to care for.  I am not a perfect creature, myself.  Surely I have done many things that could have and would have sent my soul spiraling into hell had I not found the Love of God in my life.  That love is what changes people.  That love is what changes the heart and the nature of the person.  Then, and only then can the actions of the person change.  If you want to serve God-show his children you love them, more importantly-show His children that HE loves them.  Stop being a pawn of the devil and start being an advocate for Christ.

Keeping Forgiveness Alive

Kinetic Forgiveness, I have come to realize IS ongoing healing in our lives that we effectively CHOOSE to experience every single day by staying in the practice.

Last week, a colleague came to me and mentioned the name of an individual who, in the past had caused emotional, financial and physical turmoil for me in my life.  This person is someone who I truly believed that I had forgiven.  I felt forgiveness, I experienced emotional release from the event that took place and I held no animosity toward her-FOR A TIME.

When I heard her name-and of her assumed victorious living (at what I consider to be MY expense)-it really upset me.  Not specifically because she is doing well, but because she apparently had chosen to express negative feelings toward myself and the people that I work with every day.  I realized in about two seconds how far from forgiving her I now had become.  I felt offended.

Feeling offended is the first sign that forgiveness has slid backwards toward resentment.  I had not practiced ongoing kinetic forgiveness in this area with this individual-and I realized that there is another dimension to the concept of kinetic forgiveness that goes much deeper than even I-the author-understood.  Being vigilant about removing negativity toward others who have caused hurt in some way is essential and you have to be careful to practice it daily.

Satan uses resentments and memories of past hurts to steal our joy and to rob from us the peace of this moment that is given to us to enjoy and to live in the light of God's Love.  He is the silent thief who tries to steal the forgiveness from your heart and spirit and does his best to plant those seeds of resentment back in our hearts and minds.  I have come to understand that to experience Kinetic Forgiveness as a human being-we have to stay in prayer constantly and we have to keep a watch on what is just beneath the surface of our memory and emotional border.

And so, I have begun once again to walk with God in forgiving this individual and letting go of the hurt that had left so many tiny seeds of resentment in my heart and spirit.  I want to have the freedom of joy and happiness.  I want to have the healing in my mind, body and spirit that comes along with practicing Kinetic Forgiveness and I don't care how many days a week I have to be on my knees asking God to help me see her as He sees her-I will do it.  I will do it until all of the old wounds have healed within me and there is not one thing that the enemy can use to bring back a spirit of resentment within me toward her.

She is a child of God just like I am.  My sins are no less offensive to Him than hers are.  I am no better and She is no less.  We are equal.  We are even in God's eyes and the thing that I have to remember and be consistent to remind myself of is this:  It doesn't matter what the actions of another person brought about in my life.  God is the great equalizer and He will lift me to the level that is in His will for me.

What do you think? Do you have a person in your life that you secretly are still irritated with?  Maybe you are witholding forgiveness from them and you haven't yet become aware of it-like me.  If you are-I pray that you will find truth and healing in Kinetic Forgiveness.

From My Personal Collection

 I AM DEFIANT

I am defiant.  I am defiant of the waves of oppression that continually knock me to my knees.  I am defiant of the hoards of critics who say “you cannot”.  I stand and face the wind as opposed to buckling beneath it.  I do this not of my own power-but because He that is within me is Greater than He who is in the world. 

The power I have to stand is given to me by my Father in Heaven.  And if He says, "stand child-you will not fall.  Walk child, you will not stumble.  Rest child, I will not forsake you,"  then I will take those words into my heart and I will move as He instructs.  For I know the greatest secret of all.  He that has created me has certainly dreamed better and more wondrous paths for me in His heart than I shall ever find the power to create within my own. 

And so I will trust His voice and I will follow His words and I will watch as the chains that have bound me for so long are shattered and cast aside.  I will be ever humbled by His gracious love for me and the Glory of His name will shine forth for all to bear witness.  For the greatest freedom in life is to give oneself fully and completely as we surrender ourselves into the perfect Love of God. 

In this life, we become vessels of our own creation.  But, I say it is better to soften our hardened hearts and minds, to become once again the clay-soft and pliable, gentle and accepting.  And to humbly place all that we are in the powerful palm of His hand in order that we may become a changed creature. 

Blessed are we that are taken apart from the world.  We who are molded, sculpted, created and perfectly placed upon the earth by the Hand of He who has endeavored to create the world and then to love it and all of those in it, despite the sad perplexity of our strong and continual resistance. 

His heart teaches perfect love, His mind teaches perfect thoughts and His hand directs our feet upon paths made perfect by the completeness of His great plan for our lives.  This miraculous transformation becomes the sole act of surrendering into the Greatness of God - taking in every breath in waves of  the heightened expectation of His next awesome gift as we learn to give back unto Him more of the Love that He has so freely given to all of us.

Always Remember...

ALWAYS REMEMBER THIS:


Some people will slam the door shut in your face. God will open a better one. Some people will talk badly about you behind your back. God doesn't care what they think-neither should you. People will knock you down in order to raise themselves up. God will reach down and pick you back up. People will tell you that your dreams are out of reach when they don't have the courage to follow their own. God will laugh as He proves to the world that with Him-All things ARE possible!

Have You Really Forgiven Your Enemy?

Of course, we all like to believe that we have become pros at forgiving the actions of others.  Either that, or we are proud of how tightly we can cling to resentments and how much we are certain that our refusal to forgive a certain situation will make that person miserable.  We don't often stop and consider what is the absolute truth in these actions.

The absolute truth is that in order for US to receive forgiveness of OUR shortcomings--we MUST forgive ALL others for THEIRS.  And it doesn't matter the offense against us.  Small inconveniences are much easier to forgive than large catastrophic events-so when we begin our practice of Kinetic Forgiveness, it is always a good idea to start with the smaller things and work our way up.  Once we have grasped the wondrous concept of Freedom Through Forgiveness-we will get ourselves out of the choppy waters of resentment and anger and we will begin to sail much more smoothly through our lives.

One of the important things to remember in Learning to Forgive Like God is that WE have memories of the offense-and God does not.  This doesn't mean that we should block the memories of the event we are forgiving from our mind, that will only harbor infectious wounds and allow tiny micro-grudges to block healing.  Instead, we must use these memories as gauges to test our forgiveness levels on a consistent basis.  After all, removing the emotional element from the memory is what creates Forgiveness in a Kinetic capacity.

As you move through your practice of Kinetic Forgiveness-you must often reflect backwards (which is opposite of what most techniques teach, I know)--but this is the way to keep the forgiveness alive.  You must practice detaching the emotion from the memory conciously with God's help daily until the time when you call up the memory and there is no negative emotion that comes up with it.  This is how you KNOW that you have FORGIVEN.  And this WILL happen-but like every other concious practice of self-evolution-IT TAKES TIME AND REPETITION to get it right.

Compassion is at the forefront of every successful forgiveness practice.  Without compassion, you will block God's message to you about how the other person in the situation felt or was going through at the time of the event.  And by blocking that-you block forgiveness.  This is how forgiveness becomes hollow, stagnant and dead-and this is when forgiveness is just dialog in your mind and on your tongue, but has absolutely NO healing power for your life whatsoever.

I am not saying these things to you to bring you down, or to make you feel badly.  I am saying these things because it is the messages given to me by God to bring to his children.  We pray so fervently for healing to take place in our lives-but when He answers us with something new and amazing like the practice of Kinetic Forgiveness, we must listen with our hearts and our ears.

The book, Kinetic Forgiveness is available now on my website and will be coming to Barnes & Noble, etc soon.  Coming soon to Amazon, Barnes & Noble and wherever books are sold.  Click HERE to get your copy today.

HAVE YOU REALLY FORGIVEN YOUR ENEMY?  If you become angry, hurt, anxious or troubled when you call up the memory of the event-and that emotion is toward the individual that you believe caused it, then you haven't truly forgiven them and your life is NOT healing from the negative experience.  Find FREEDOM from the pain of resentment today and pick up YOUR copy of Kinetic Forgiveness.  Healing Power is at your fingertips-all you have to do is reach out.